Posted by Dinah on December 14, 2001, at 8:31:52
In reply to Re: Why oh why do I do the things I do-A lighter note » Dinah, posted by mair on December 14, 2001, at 7:40:42
Thanks Mair,
That really sums up how I feel about therapy myself. It's a relationship like any other and you need to work out the problems. He certainly has his flaws, but I've come to terms with them and they only occasionally cause problems with me. And he has so many good points, including being really professional about things like this, exploring my part of it nonjudgmentally, and accepting his part of it, and trying (although frequently not succeeding - just like any human being) at doing better. A lot of it comes from the feeling that he really doesn't like me too much, but it really isn't necessary that a therapist like his clients. And that conviction might be transference too. Although he would have more than enough reasons to dislike me.
I'll bring it up with him and maybe we can make some procedural changes that will help.
But you know, I think that the very conditions (basic uncertainty, power imbalance) of therapy might bring out the clingy, desperate behaviors that therapists hate in people who have borderline traits. I'm going to have to give that some thought.
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