Posted by JohnDoenut on December 13, 2001, at 13:11:25
In reply to Re: Why oh why do I do the things I do? » Augusta, posted by Dinah on December 13, 2001, at 12:54:24
Ok can I speak frankly as well?
> I'm sure I'm misrepresenting him, or maybe like
No youre not. Youre making excuses for him so you wont find someone else!
>a child, I just can't stand to think that there >is anything wrong with the sole source of safety >in my life.
But there is and you know it! Or you wouldnt be posting here!!!
>He does do a few other things that might indicate a lack of respect.
Well there you said it yourself!
>He has trouble staying awake in session.
This is bad. I had one pdoc who did that and I got tired of it and I stopped going to see him.
>He chronically starts sessions late and often >ends them as if they were started on time.
Have you talked about this with him?
>But my emotional self is attached to him in a way my rational self just can't understand.
>Any attempts on my part to shake that attachment just cause a lot of trouble to me.This is something that a good therapist would work on with you. Its something that does need to be explored and worked out. If you cant do that with him, find another pdoc or therapist to help you do that! How about this, while youre still working with him, find and start working with someone else, the stop with him. That way you wont have anyone not to go to.
>In fact my level of attachment to him is >frightening to me and would scare the bejeebers >out of him.
If a dr or therapist cant deal with a patients emotions whatever they are and analyse and work through them, they arent doing thier job or helping you!
> And he really does mean well.
Im sure battered women make this excuse all the
time for not leaving thier boyfriend or husband.No disrespect intended or anything, just trying to help! :)
Think about it.JohnD
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