Posted by Krazy Kat on September 24, 2001, at 10:17:58
In reply to Re: what are words? do they matter? » sar, posted by paxvox on September 24, 2001, at 9:21:10
Pax brings up date rape. There were a couple of times in college where I would say I was "date raped" but at the same time I look back on it as very misguided decisions on my part.
I've also had sex with my husband and not "remembered it."
I had a friend who was sexually abused as a child so I do look at the acts differently.
Jane - we know you were giving legal advice and that you are a caring person. It is helpful.
All that said, I know at least somewhat how crummy you feel. Of course he shouldn't have taken advantage of the situation. And you'll never know exactly what happened. At least I've never regained those memories. And it makes me so angry. At myself. At the other person. At my inability to treat myself like I would my own child.
My guess is, you're not taking care of yourself yet, maybe partly because of the abuse from earlier years. But you will, Sar. The meds will help. You won't feel the need to drink as much, or put yourself in such dangerous situations, if you're like me. Of course you may start smoking again at age thirty.
- K.
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