Posted by TherapyGirl on December 3, 2008, at 17:13:56
In reply to Relationship with your T in your head?, posted by FindingMyDesire on December 3, 2008, at 0:35:11
> Here's a question. I'm sure it's been asked before... but after such a great therapy session tonight I am feeling a little playful I guess.
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> How many of you carry on what feels like a whole relationship (of any kind) with your T in your head?
I definitely do. Always have.
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> 1. If you do, how does it differ (if it does) to the real relationship you have in your sessions together?
In my head, this relationship is all that I want/need it to be. She's more of my mother and we spend WAY more time together than we do in real life. The first few years, the relationship in my head was the only one that included me actually talking.
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> 2. How much time do you spend talking to your T in your head (if you do such a thing as I seem to do much of the day)?
This really varies, depending on what's going on. But the minimum is probably twice/day.
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> 3. Do you ever argue with the T in your head?
Of course. Doesn't everyone? LOL
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> 4. And, lastly, if you have insights about what this head-relationship is all about I would love to hear them.I choose to believe that this is part of the process of internalizing our Ts -- having them in our heads so that eventually we can move through life without them. For me, especially at first, it was safer to have a relationship with her in my head because I could control it all (very important for those of us who had rough childhoods).
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> (Bonus Question)
> Oh, and if you ever have sexual fantasies about your T please feel free to share that (not them, just the fact that you have them) so that I don't feel so alone...
You're not alone and I understand how this would happen, but I don't do this. My T connection is completely maternal.
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> Finding My Desire
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