Posted by Dinah on November 5, 2008, at 8:40:36
In reply to Re: Life shouldn't be this hard - triggers, posted by DAisym on November 4, 2008, at 23:52:37
> And don't most people believe that sex is such a base-need of humans that you should need it more than fear it?
I can't say I talk about these things with everyone, but among my friends with no mental health issues it's still common for one spouse or the other to not really care for sex very much.
Which is not to say that doesn't cause problems for the other spouse (which is probably how I come to hear of it).
I don't think you can say "most" people in any meaningful sense when it comes to a particular relationship. It's something best worked out between an individual couple. The fit between the couple is far more important than some idea of what's normal and most sexual issues come from a mismatch between sexual drives rather than a deviation from "normal".
Yet another reason why open communication in a relationship is important. Or as I think I heard Dr. Drew or Adam say, if you can have sex with them, you ought to feel comfortable talking about sex with them. (Yes, I confess to being a huge Loveline fan.)
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