Posted by crushedout on July 21, 2006, at 12:02:41
In reply to Re: Paying to have my heart professionally broken, posted by Dinah on July 21, 2006, at 11:55:46
> I was responding to this in your first post.
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> "...and it's seeming more and more impossible that I ever will fall in love with anyone other than an older, straight, female, married therapist (of mine)"Yeah, no, I understand why you responded the way you did. I'm not meaning to be critical of what you said in any way--just trying to figure out what MY pattern is.
The thing for me is BEFORE I started therapy with "Ellen," I didn't seem to have this pattern. I mean, I was able to fall in love with actual people in my life. That all seems like ancient history now.
> I guess the pattern might come in on older, straight, and possessing some quality that therapists share? Are you attracted to older women outside therapy? Straight women? Women who aren't available to you? Women who listen attentively? Women in a position of (however you see therapists being in a position)?Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. But where does it get me to know all that? For example, WHY would I be attracted to unavailable women? And even if I know why, how does that make it easier to change it?
As I said, I'm not trying to challenge you. Your thoughts are extremely helpful. I'm just trying to figure this out.
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