Posted by pinkeye on May 22, 2005, at 20:17:58
In reply to Re: Wondering if my Ex T understood me » pinkeye, posted by JenStar on May 22, 2005, at 20:10:27
Oh No. My ex T didn't do anything wrong.
The style in India is totally different. I went to therapy with everyone in my family - my husband, my father, my mother. And my ex T has spoken to everyone individually. Intiially I went for marital counselling becuase of the same India/US issue at that time as well. And I WAS BEING EXTREMELY BAD. I was angry, shouting at my husband, throwing things, cursing everyone etc. I was very depressed.
He didn't go behind my back and tell others things that I told him. He most certainly did not. But I think it was a honest assessment at that time that I was not behaving well, and my husband was being quite very nice at that time. If I had been a therapist, and a couple comes to me for marital counselling, and the wife was behaving like I did, I would have advised the husband to leave the wife myself. And that is what he did too. I don't hold it against him.
But after that, I continued to write to him when I came back to the US and continued sort of marital + indivudual therapy with him, and my husband did not keep in touch with him. And my ex T has been very helpful in the past 2 and half years.
Only that I am trying to find out reasons on why my exT didn't like me much, and I am thinking maybe it has to do with my behaviour in the first year and he probably didn't recongnize I had changed. Just my own rumination.. not really anything to do with my exT. He was most certainly not hindering my progress.
Anyway, I wrote to him today an email. I don't think he would reply, but atleast I felt relieved.
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