Posted by JenStar on May 22, 2005, at 20:10:27
In reply to Wondering if my Ex T understood me, posted by pinkeye on May 18, 2005, at 13:39:22
Pinkeye, is your ex-T from India, too? You mentioned that the culture there is very steeped in patriarchy and a bit of condescension towards women. You also said that your T did NOT keep your conversations private, but would talk to your family about what you said. To me, that is a huge violation of the relationship and means that you could not possibly have been getting "real" therapy that was "really" helping you. It almost sounds MORE damaging to you, because you had to put up an extra shell of care to hide certain things, wonder what was said about you, etc. To me it sounds like the ex-T was actually a hindrance to your progress.
If you go back to India, would it be possible to have a Western-style T who respects your privacy truly and listens and assists?
I'm concerned about you! ((pinkeye))
JenStar
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