Posted by Dinah on April 9, 2005, at 10:10:14
In reply to Re: I tried. » Dinah, posted by mair on April 9, 2005, at 5:44:51
Yeah, I sort of think the same thing. It's not altogether bad of me to think of him as a human being who has his own needs. And for me to give a darn about them.
I didn't try to bring up the larger problem as I saw it. I just tried to fix it. I figured since I was aware what I was doing, I could just quit doing it. So I tried to do that, tried bringing up my anger in a calm sort of way. But it didn't turn out so well, so now my instinct is to go back to not doing it.
For some reason, the idea of bringing up the dynamic I'm noticing is scary. I'm not sure I'm quite ready for it. And I'm not sure he's quite ready for it. Maybe when the time is right.
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