Posted by Dinah on April 8, 2005, at 22:20:05
In reply to Re: I tried. » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on April 8, 2005, at 21:41:22
Theoretically that's true.
In reality, there are only a few possibilities.
I can tell him I'll come back when he's feeling better. Not really likely.
I could tell him how his disclosures make me feel. And he'd likely quit disclosing and we'd be back where we were a few years ago. He'd be out of sorts, I'd feel it, but I wouldn't know why. I'd assume he was mad at me. I'd get scared and hurt and angry and we'd fight. I don't really like that one. I think I prefer he spends a few minutes at the beginning of the session complaining a bit.
I can realize he's out of sorts and modify my behavior accordingly.
I have a feeling that not so long ago I'd have told him that he was letting his personal problems get in the way of his therapy skills, and politely ask if there was anything I could do to help him get back in form.
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