Posted by mair on October 15, 2004, at 16:56:35
In reply to Quit therapy, for good,Cant take it anymore (long), posted by shrinking violet on October 14, 2004, at 19:04:53
My Ex-T was a pdoc, who had been in the business long enough to have taught tons of other Ts. He once told me that 2 very important attributes of a good T were that he or she be patient and that he or she be comfortable with ambiguity.
I've been seeing my own T for almost 5 years I think (I've really lost count). Unless we're dealing with some pretty surface issues, I generally have an awful time talking to her - I get impatient with myself and frustrated to the point of anger, but she never seems to get impatient at all, or certainly never shows it. She just tells me that opening up to people is my big issue, and that it's something we need to be working on all the time; that it is the essence of our work together.
It sounds to me, at least from what you've written, that your therapist is neither patient, nor comfortable with the ambiguity of your relationship with her.
Mair
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