Re: I quit therapy- Feeling Very Sad (Long) » Poet

Posted by gardenergirl on October 9, 2004, at 19:32:30

In reply to Re: I quit therapy- Feeling Very Sad (Long) » crushedout, posted by Poet on October 9, 2004, at 15:35:54

> It seems that so many of us think that our therapists would be overjoyed to get rid of us. Mine made it clear she wasn't, but I quit anyway.
Dear Poet, I'm sorry you were feeling this way in therapy. Your statement above made me think back to my own clients. I can't really think of anyone I was wishing I could get rid of. That doesn't mean that I didn't have some challenges, but I just had to put in more effort, especially if therapy seemed to be getting stagnant. I hope that you will be able to talk to her about this feeling you expressed here more in depth in the future. I think that the discrepancy between your feeling (which is valid, btw...you feel and worry what you do, regardless of how others' feel)...and hers is important to discuss.
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> I had thought about quitting for a week- it wasn't a snap decision. What I didn't take into consideration was how I would feel without therapy. My (former?) T asked if I had thought about it and I said no. Now I realize I should have.
You know what? The ability to re-evaluate this in light of new information...i.e. how you feel now, is a very healthy and adaptive skill. Without it you would be truly stuck. There's no shame in re-thinking a decision. There's no shame! I know it feels that way. And that makes any effort to go back a truly difficult prospect, I'm sure. But I hope you can move forward despite the fear of shame and contact your T. It's not moving backwards, it's forwards. By re-thinking this, you are still working hard on trying to do what's best for you.
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> I should call her, but like you, pride gets in the way.
Can you email her? Write he a letter? Have someone else call? Or call when you know you will get the answering machine? All these might be easier.
I'm thinking of you. (((((Poet))))
gg

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Re: I quit therapy- Feeling Very Sad (Long) » Dinah Poet 10/9/04
Emotional confetti » fallsfall Poet 10/9/04
Re: Emotional confetti » Poet fallsfall 10/9/04
Re: I quit therapy- Feeling Very Sad (Long) » Poet gardenergirl 10/9/04
Poet, how are you doing? (nm) gardenergirl 10/11/04
Re: Emotional confetti » fallsfall Poet 10/11/04
Re: Poet, how are you doing? » gardenergirl Poet 10/11/04
Re: Emotional confetti » Poet fallsfall 10/11/04
Re: Emotional confetti Annierose 10/11/04
Re: Poet, how are you doing? » Poet gardenergirl 10/11/04
shame just plain jane 10/12/04
Poet? Dinah 10/12/04
Re: Emotional confetti Poet 10/12/04
Re: Emotional confetti » Annierose Poet 10/12/04
how are you doing? » gardenergirl Poet 10/12/04
Re: shame » just plain jane Poet 10/12/04
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