Re: Emotional confetti » Poet

Posted by fallsfall on October 9, 2004, at 16:41:49

In reply to Emotional confetti » fallsfall, posted by Poet on October 9, 2004, at 16:08:57

[I seem to have diarrhea of the fingers today. Please feel free to ignore this post if you want...]
Look for the Skill Training manual at your library (or a nearby University library)...
>I'm stuggling with shame about calling my therapist.
OK. So what is "shame"? (This is an honest question from me)
Is shame something that *we* feel, or something that *others* feel? When you say that you are struggling with shame, do you mean that *you* think you did a bad thing, or that you think that *your therapist* will think that you did a bad thing?
Your therapist already said that she would welcome you back. Do you think that she will *also* think you did a bad thing?
Or why would *you* think you have done a bad thing if she has already said that you didn't? Do the two of you interpret the same act differently (you think it was a bad thing, she doesn't)? Is there an absolute "good" or "bad" that can be attached to each act? Or is it possible for you both to have different opinions and have both of you be right (even though you disagree)?
[This is an old issue for me, I have a strong believe in a global right/wrong system. Where everything is intrisically good or bad, and if two people disagree about whether it is good or bad, then one of them is wrong. I think that people have tried to convince me that this isn't particularly accurate (i.e. are Republicans good or bad? Reasonable people can disagree. I would tend to believe one way, and think that the disagreers are uninformed.)]
I honestly am confused by this. This is one of the kinds of things where people look at me like I have 3 heads... You can pat me on the head(s) and tell me to go away if you want to, I won't take offense...

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Re: Emotional confetti » Poet fallsfall 10/9/04
Re: I quit therapy- Feeling Very Sad (Long) » Poet gardenergirl 10/9/04
Poet, how are you doing? (nm) gardenergirl 10/11/04
Re: Emotional confetti » fallsfall Poet 10/11/04
Re: Poet, how are you doing? » gardenergirl Poet 10/11/04
Re: Emotional confetti » Poet fallsfall 10/11/04
Re: Emotional confetti Annierose 10/11/04
Re: Poet, how are you doing? » Poet gardenergirl 10/11/04
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Poet? Dinah 10/12/04
Re: Emotional confetti Poet 10/12/04
Re: Emotional confetti » Annierose Poet 10/12/04
how are you doing? » gardenergirl Poet 10/12/04
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Nevermind - Saw Thread Below (nm) mair 10/19/04

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