Posted by Dinah on December 6, 2002, at 19:07:10
I have emotionally divorced just about everyone in my life, and I suspect I'm about to do it to one of the few remaining people I am attached to, my therapist.
The first time was really sudden. My mother and I were yelling at each other and suddenly I looked at her and she wasn't my mother any more. She was just an acquaintance who looked ridiculous with her red distorted face and wild eyes. She never became my mother again.
The other times were more gradual and I could feel it happening incrementally. I tried to stop it each time, but was unable to do so. It does make for an easier life in some ways, and in every single case the relationship with the person I emotionally divorced became smoother, had less conflicts, and was more pleasant. But overall, it is a life of emotional impoverishment.
Has anyone else experienced this, and found a way to stop the process? I recognize that it is a self protective measure, but I don't know how to interrupt it.
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