Posted by mair on December 7, 2002, at 9:28:17
In reply to Re: Emotional divorce » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on December 7, 2002, at 8:06:57
Dinah
You should think of it as an emotional separation and not an emotional divorce which has the sound of more permanence. I think I've been doing this for most of my life although I think of it as emotional withdrawal. I can withdraw emotionally without withdrawing physically so those around me are pretty unaware that anything is different. It's exhausting but obviously serves a purpose.
A therapist I used to see once observed that he could feel it happening. I've been trying to make a more studied effort not to let this happen with my current therapist although it does and is responsible, I think, for feelings of detachment I have. Sometimes my effort may just be maintaining eye contact with her which can be difficult particularly when we're dealing with issues that seem more threatening.
Mair
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