Posted by Dinah on December 9, 2002, at 21:44:50
In reply to Re: Emotional divorce » Dinah, posted by Eddie Sylvano on December 9, 2002, at 10:15:12
It certainly can't hurt. I do a fair amount of as-if'ing. Unfortunately I find that how well it works really depends on my mood. Ironic in a way. When I'm depressed I have to act as-if about things like Christmas.
I think the emotional divorce thing may be part of my dissociative skills though. Those skills are a funny thing. I'm more aware of them now, and I even practice them sometimes. As I get better and better at it, I use it more and more frequently and I use other coping mechanisms less and less frequently. I know that in the long run it's not good for me to do this, but I'm just not willing to give up the short term relief.
So I guess I'm not going to be able to overcome this problem in therapy as long as I keep leaning on it so heavily. If I'm not ready to give it up, I'm probably not going to. So I probably should stop complaining about the bad parts of it.
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