Posted by SLS on November 19, 2018, at 8:40:02
In reply to I feel kinda bad..., posted by alexandra_k on November 19, 2018, at 4:18:17
Cause and effect.
I think any negative reaction by your mother to what you said was predictable. I hope that you two can reconnect to have a relationship that is good for both of you. Right now, your mother might not want a reconciliation under any circumstances. Maybe she does. I hope she does.
I can isolate the cause and effect for the development of my life-ruining depression to what my mother did to me when I was young. At some point, I decided that there was no advantage to confronting her with this fact.
Even though the things you said to your mother are probably true, you might want to apologize to her anyway. It is probably better to do this sooner than rather than later in order to prevent your mother from building up resentments that would make it more difficult for you to reconcile with her.
Maybe this is not the best thing for you to do. You know your mother best. Do you think that simply giving her time to process things will be sufficient for her to reach out to you or take your phone calls?
- ScottSome see things as they are and ask why.
I dream of things that never were and ask why not.- George Bernard Shaw
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