Posted by med_empowered on October 22, 2005, at 3:08:32
In reply to Re: What to do about my parents... » med_empowered, posted by crazy teresa on October 21, 2005, at 22:07:45
Thanks! In one short, very forward (but polite, supportive, and kind) message, you've managed to do what therapists, friends, and psychiatrists have been unable to do: point out the undesirable and negative effects my parents' behavior has had one me, and at the same time push me to take responsibility for my own life (while acknowledging that its difficult, and that slips and stumbles are unavoidable), while providing me with the support needed to help me do what I can do and need to do to have a fulfilling, meaningful existence. Thanks alot. My goal is to get to the point where I can deal with my parents, who they are, were, and will be, without attaching any real significance to their (usually negative) input. In the end, I want to find ways to counterbalance what I've dealt with so I can accept it, but still feel good about myself because I have positive input from other people (and my own personal accomplishments). I don't want to sit around and whine about what has happened and continues to happen, but I do feel there has to be a point at which I can say "this sucks. they are unhealthy and dragging me down"...I just dont see how I could just "forget about it" and "tune it out" without setting up some system for getting the kind of positive feedback and relationships I need (and which everyone needs, really). Again, thanks **very** much.
PS--I've applied for schools out-of-state, and I'm in the process of making arrangements to move within the next 1-2 months.
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