Posted by crazy teresa on October 21, 2005, at 22:07:45
In reply to What to do about my parents..., posted by med_empowered on October 21, 2005, at 11:52:33
Part of being an adult is that life sucks.
Another part is that as an adult, you get to make your own decisions. That doesn't mean life won't suck, but hey, at least you get to decide.
I know that you want to hear different things from your parents than what you're being told, but the cold hard reality is that you may never hear it due to the unhealthy choices they have made. It is your mom's choice to continue drinking and your dad's choice to enable her. And although there is no excuse for mental abuse; it is a choice they make to say the things they have said to you.
Now that's you're an adult, you have the choice whether to stay and believe them or get out of there and make a better life for yourself.
Do NOT let the past dictate your future! We all experience problems and setbacks; some moreso than others. The difference is ultimately what you do with what you've experienced. Use it against yourself (as your parents seem to want to use it against you) or use it to learn from and move forward (go to school.)
PLEASE, PLEASE, don't believe what they're telling you. Don't settle for a life of less than what you're fully capable of. If you do, you will always resent yourself for settling. You may also resent your parents even more by caving in and allowing them to prove themselves right (which would do nothing to help improve your relationship)!
Go for broke-- remove yourself from such a stressful situation-- move out, get in school and do well, just like you know you can. It may not be easy, but it will definitely be worth the struggle.
We'll be here to cheer you on, no matter what!
Feeling like your newly adopted virtual mother,
crazy teresa
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