Posted by Nickengland on October 19, 2005, at 10:47:10
In reply to Re: what i value » alexandra_k, posted by verne on October 18, 2005, at 22:38:09
Hi Verne,
>The DrBoB inside crowd has an influence of its own, a dynamic that drags us all down.
It can feel like that at times, I guess thats a reality that you've felt for yourself and i'm truely sorry to hear that, especially if you felt in anyway I was any part of it. Conversely, the members here can have an affect or dynamic that can postively lift you up... I bet you have had an affect on other members here that has made them feel good :-)
Its worth considering this too, something I noticed alittle while back with the posts on administration is they are different from the other boards at first I couldn't quite figure out what it was, until I found out this board in particular isn't for support or education specifically, so at times I guess it can feel like your not getting any help here, but then you post on the other boards and much help, support and knowledge is widely available but also I think indriectly its available here but its use can be controversial ;-)
>Please get your emotional support from REAL people.
Great advice!.. as in like getting emotional support (as well as you can recieve here, its virtual in a sense) everyone needs emotional support from real people in real life away from the computer, I personally think anyway. If they unfortunately do not have that, then the next best thing could be having 'virtual support' which in turn could lead them to 'real' support, possibly with the outcome of having both perhaps?
>I think this is a great site but not a good support group.
I'm glad you think its a great site too :-) I don't think the Administration board is the 'best' of boards for support, but then its for discussion of the rest of the support boards..
>If anyone dares to be sincere, there's usually an uproar. Scambuster, "so", whatever the name, is banned yet the mob that claimed he was "anti-social" is given a free pass. I guess that's not a "put down".
ScamBuster was already a banned poster from a fair few blocks previous. I have noticed to that in some of his posts there is sincerity. Also I have notice and felt that there is a clear piece of writing and to which is in the archives of only a couple of months ago which says he feels this site should be shut down, Dr Bob should lose his medical licence, and also I caught the posts which are posts in the pattern he/she does after a block which then compares the deputies to a Nazi Regime (very uncivily) and also other things of a very uncivil nature and like everyone, has their own reality to how they perciveve things, thats fine I guess, as long as its within laws (generally speaking) right down to rules within an online forum. If they're repsected then theres not a problem, but the posts always get very uncivil near to the end and so it ends up blocked....whilst blocked he then comes back and posts under a different name, the process repeats itself, i've noticed anyway.
If the pattern was that he got blocked, waited till the block was up, then came back and posted...remained civil and within the rules, he's still be posting here today..
To draw an anology, with the anti social aspect, if someone goes to a real life support group, or a night club and they behave in a civil way, theres no problem generally speaking, however if they behave in a way that is not accpetable to the rules of the estabilishment, then the owners have the right to remove/block/ban them.
Kind regards
Nick
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