Posted by alexandra_k on October 19, 2005, at 7:06:07
In reply to Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob, posted by verne on October 19, 2005, at 4:43:19
> Perhaps the gap between the cyberhug and real hug is not easily bridged.
yeah. they are different.
but then so is this:
:-)
nature of the medium i suppose.
there are advantages and disadvantages.
i find it much easier to talk about things that are hard for me on the boards than irl.
because...
i do get afraid of people evaluating me negatively. poking fun or whatever. and what can be great about seeing so many supportive posts is that it can assist one be able to take a risk with something that is hard. and get a supportive response. and that can help give one confidence. the confidence to talk about it irl too. at least... i've found those things in my case.but you have to take a risk to get a little gain
and if that works out okay
then you can take bigger risks for bigger gains
in my experience
that helps.
> You ask whether I feel like an "outsider" here. I do.i'd give you a cyberhug but thats probably not so helpful to you. sometimes it can take a little while to meet like minded individuals. where on earth did larry get to???? have you met toph? you might find atticus amusing. the writing board. social is fairly... social. suprise suprise. i just take whatever i am in the mood for from there. don't partake in the 'silly' threads very often (did not mean that in a judgemental way) but sometimes i'm in one of those moods or a little flat or feeling lonely and they help pick me up.
> Nevertheless, I yearn for a kind of integrity and honesty of language, heart, and soul, evinced by "ScamBuster", "So", or "Previously Known As"...are there some people who aren't blocked that kind of do that too? maybe babble to them...
> Bear with me as I explore this.:-)
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