Posted by Racer on February 11, 2004, at 22:45:34
In reply to Re: Dunno about shar.....me, neither! » shar, posted by judy1 on February 11, 2004, at 19:57:29
You know, right now I'm so totally up in the air you wouldn't believe it. Yeah, it's kinda good, but it's so frightening!
As for the abandonment, that's always been a big part of it for me, too. With my husband, no matter how much he sometimes drives me crazy, I do trust him to stay, as long as he can. Most of my worries in that regard are about his health, which we're (finally) starting to address.
And abandonment is not a simple issue. In looking back over my past, I've got a pretty consistent pattern of being the one to leave any relationship. So, you ask, if I'm the one who leaves, why am I so afraid of being left? When that question gets answered, maybe I'm halfway home?
Maybe that's some place for you to start? Thinking about what abandonment looks like to you? Exploring situations in which you felt abandoned? Just a couple of thoughts.
As for your therapist, good for him and good for you. Don't even start thinking about "not needing" any more, think of it as being analogous to a manicure: someone who's there solely for your benefit and beautification. (May not help, but may...)
Warm thoughts, and gratitude to you.
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