Posted by hyperfocus on July 29, 2011, at 15:43:23
In reply to Re: Amy Winehouse, posted by Dinah on July 25, 2011, at 8:04:35
I get triggered too sometimes when I see bullying and other people ganging up on one person. But I'm more likely to get upset on a moderated forum like PB where it's intentional and deliberate, than wild and wooly public forums like Youtube. I guess after 10 years of participating in online communities I've grown a thick skin. I know it can be hard to look past the comments people make, but it takes like 5s to type out something mean and hurtful. Saying something good and meaningful takes time and effort.
You might not believe it but the dedicated trolls, hackers, etc. have their own code of ethics that they stick to. There was this troll group who raided a forum for epileptic kids and posted flashing, animated images hoping to cause seizures in the kids. That actually got a huge amount of disapproval from people on the sidelines. If you spend most of your time in front of a computer, then your popularity in high school is probably not that great. A lot of the people in these organized groups have first-hand experience with bullying and tend to avoid taking advantage of weaker people like that. Most of the organized trolling by pseudo-groups like Anonymous are directed towards orgs like Scientology or in support of WikiLeaks or people who committed suicide because of bullying. Not everybody is into this 'white-knighting' but a lot of people are.
I think some of the unkind commentary has to do with Amy Winehouse's popularity. It's just the cool thing to be counter-culture and be disparaging towards pop culture icons. If it had been Britney Spears or Mariah Carey it would have been 100x worse.
One lesson I had to learn the hard way is not to ever try to understand people who derive pleasure from hurting others. If your brain is not put together like that then you will never, ever understand. So when I see it or if it's directed towards me, I just zone out and skip over it, like TV ads. It's a real survival skill you have to learn today.
C-PTSD: social phobia, major depression, dissociation.
Currently: 300mg amitriptyline, 200 mg sulpiride; single dose at night.
Also: Allegra, Actos 30mg, 1000mg Vitamin C, multivitamin.
Improving.
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