Posted by floatingbridge on July 25, 2011, at 21:50:38
In reply to Re: Amy Winehouse, posted by Dinah on July 25, 2011, at 8:04:35
> On the internet, you are talking on a forum that might directly reach her family, friends, people who look like her, people with issues of addiction and mental health, people who have lost loved ones to those issues. The audience is larger and the potential for harm is larger.
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> I am not sure there are "harmless" trolls.This interests me, Dinah.
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> They cause harm to me, even if they hit no issue buttons with me. Hate and cruelty hurt me. They make me ashamed to be human.
>To be cruel and err is human. It's tough to be sensitive and be capable of internalizing. But even in our mistakes, humans derserve love. Elephants are complex. Left without their elders, the young males have been known to form gangs and truly bully younger elephants. But I have never heard a naturalist say it's a shame to be an elephant. Or a dog.
I am only beginning to understand the enormity of shame in all it's complexity. To even understand it's functionnwithin our species. To feel ashamed is painful. Then again, there are those who's shame function has been stunted. They just go and go and project outward.
I just think you are such an amazing thinking person, Dinah.
Again, I don't know why some sites permit such statements to be published. I stopped reading. Then I vented here. I didn't mean to provoke any painful feelings here. I forget how sensitive a group we can be.
> If they do happen to hit my own issues, they make me feel ashamed, alone, and sometimes hopeless. Reading comments like those makes me feel despised by the world and deserving of any harm that comes my way.
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> The internet is just a way for people to lash out and hurt a larger number of people with a smaller chance of consequences for themselves. How is that harmless? Why do the major sites allow it to happen?
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