Posted by violette on August 28, 2010, at 23:54:49 [reposted on August 30, 2010, at 0:08:32 | original URL]
In reply to Re: magical thinking? » violette, posted by Dinah on August 28, 2010, at 23:10:21
"I don't think I'd want to give up thinking about my reactions. Nor would I ever wish it to be irrelevant. Maybe I'm misunderstanding."
With a healthy sense of self, your reactions are not as much as an issue. It's not so much about 'giving up' thinking about reactions as it so much worrying about it. In terms of other's reactions, if you acted according to your values-and were empathetic and had best intentions in mind, another's reaction would be more irrelevant since you did the best you could from your heart and can do nothing about it. And since you cannot control another's reaction despite your best intentions, you just accept it rather than think about it so much-which is an element of neuroticism. You don't have a need to continually question yourself-'think' about your reactions...another element of neuroticism. Instead, you are confident that your own reactions parallel the circustances, are attuned with the reality of the situation. "Thinking of reactions", to some extent, is neurotic.
"At any rate, as far as Babble fate is concerned, I think it is relevant."
I can't comment on the relevance of this in terms of my life personally as I am not particularly concerned about Babble fate as it's not an important element of my life. i think those who attribute more importance to this site will either cope with whatever happens that is out of their control, and at the same time, do whatever they can in terms of what is in their own control. As you are doing. And if it does't match expectations, adjust reactions accordingly, as you said is important to do.
Hope i explained that ok. Regardless, I understand if your ideals don't match what I've learned and stated here.
Sorry to get off topic. The magical thinking concept interested me.
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