Posted by garnet71 on June 7, 2009, at 21:52:56
In reply to What makes me undatable?, posted by Deneb on June 7, 2009, at 21:40:46
Deneb, I'm sorry-it's not you, per say..but your borderline tendancies are strong. In no way do I think you set out to hurt people (intentionally); however, your borderline tendancies show through, and cannot be ignored when it comes to others.
Those aspects can hurt people, although you don't mean to do it. I only know this from reading and experience; I"m not an expert. I see, however, how it can happen in your case..And you tell your PDoc you are only seeking 'friends'; it's misleading, unless that's not what you meant in your posts.
I've had expeiences where I've dated emotionally unstable people, and it has hurt me. It has hurt me a great deal. That doesn't mean your inentions are to hurt others--I know you don't want to do that. It's the borderline tendancies that take over. You seem to need to work on that more, that's all.I'm sorry if anything I said was hurtful; I am just trying to be honest. It's easier to be naive and "go with the status quo". Sometimes easier is not better--for all parties involved.
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