Posted by Kath on December 26, 2008, at 19:30:27
In reply to Re: Christmas traditions; feeling sad **sad trigger** » Kath, posted by Dinah on December 25, 2008, at 18:47:03
> Those sound like lovely Christmas traditions. What are Clementine oranges? I'm trying to think if I've had one.
~ ~ Hi Dinah, thx for your kind reply! Clementines are very small. Sort of like - oh - maybe you call them Mandarin oranges. I think we call them that also. They're smaller than regular ones. There used to be a kind of orange that we had around Christmastime. I can't remember what they were called. Clementines are much like those, only smaller. Those ones had stringy white thread-like things around the orange inside the peel! Can't believe I don't remember what they were called. DH can't remember either. Our family calls Clementines "clemmies". Oh - the other ones were Tangerines.
> Is it cold where you are?
~ ~ It was about -13 for a few days. That's about 10F. Today it was -3C. O is freezing.
>It's hot hot hot here today. The air conditioner is on, and I'm still in sleeveless, with short pants.
~ ~Wow - that's hard for me to imagine!
> I just got back from bringing some roast beef and very flat Yorkshire pudding (my first Yorkshire Pudding failure) to my mother and my uncle. They've got the flu and couldn't make it to our house, but she felt well enough to eat it if I brought it to her.
~ ~ That's nice of you. Did you have to travel far?
What is sylabub? I think that's what you mentioned in the other post. I've read about it in some of the historical fiction books I read...never knew what it was.> Tea sounds like a nice tradition if it's very cold. Is there any way to start some other traditions just for the two of you? I know that once we have kids, the holidays seem like they're all about them. But it needn't be that way. Traditions can bring comfort and can make the extraordinary out of the ordinary. They may change over time, but that doesn't mean you can't find new ways to make this day special among days.
~ ~ ~ Yes, I think that's probably a good idea. Actually, this year, at IKEA (do you have IKEA stores?) I bought some Swedish "Glogg" (the 'o' has 2 dots over it). It's non-alcoholic & is like a spiced fruit wine & you heat it. It was really good & DH & I enoyed that on Christmas Eve.
I think I'm still in the 'grieveing' part. And, although almost every shred of me hates it, I think it's probably healthy to grieve. I think that while in the grieving, I am not yet in a place to put many new traditions in place.> Or every day, I suppose, if it comes to that. Although I suppose every day can't be special in the exact same way.
~ ~ I suppose there are people who sort of honour every day. I suppose every day could be considered a big gift. Like my friend, who has been battling cancer for years & who welcomes getting old & views every birthday as a big gift, rather than a 'oh dear, I'm another year older' type of event.
I'm getting things ready to go to visit our daughter tomorrow. I bought her 3 cozy waffle-weave hooded tops today for $6 each! I'm looking forward to seeing her.
Another part of me feels anxious that my son will be here & we won't be here 'if he needs us'. Jeez!! Give me a break LOL.
But it's a nagging reality that part of me feels that way. I guess the actual reality in the past is that things CAN go off the rails. Things have been going very well though. He's been really responsible about his job. He's been working 7 weeks now. I guess it makes sense that I could feel nervous, because this is way longer than he's kept a job since his first job a year ago Nov (since his psychosis & his coming back from BC 2 years ago).
He really likes his job & his boss & has said more than once 'now I've got this job & I've got responsibilities & I can't just do whatever I want'. He generally gets in pretty early at night so he can get a good sleep for work the next day, etc. I guess I have to realize that I need a good bit of time to go by with this new behaviour happening before it'll become "the new reality" to me!! If I look at it that way, I feel better.I guess I should realize - "Hey - of course it makes sense that I'd feel nervous." But then I get feeling bad for having negative vibes - what if the Law of Attraction works!! LOL I don't want to be attracting negative stuff. I think I'm still a bit sick & am feeling sort of unbalanced!
Anyway Dinah, thx for your gentle kindness.
Puleeez try to enjoy that heat for me if you can! Although, it sounds like it's just TOO hot.
luv, Kath
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