Posted by ClearSkies on November 19, 2007, at 15:25:37
In reply to Re: How Do We Live Without Love?, posted by Fivefires on November 19, 2007, at 14:26:32
That sounds more like you are being shut out or that the "rules" have been changed. Perhaps it takes patience? Perhaps there has been some perceived slight that they are still smarting from? I do know, however, that relationships don't go backwards; that we can't get back to where we once were, especially if there has been some rough patches along the way. Families, in particular, don't forget easily. And while I wish fervently that there had been family therapy available when we were all going through traumatic periods so long ago, we each have tried to heal and deal with the hurts in the only ways we knew. And now, it's up to us individually to do the growing and healing, instead of collectively as a family.
That's where I'm coming from, anyways. I'd love to be able to talk to my family easily and honestly about many issues, past and present; but they have their own problems that prevent them from being able to do so. And it's not my role to be the "family healer" - I have enough just trying to heal my own hurts.
I'm sorry that you're hurting, 5F.
ClearSkies
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