Posted by fayeroe on April 30, 2007, at 18:42:16
In reply to Re: rehab lite won't cut it w/ him...stay the cour » fayeroe, posted by Kath on April 30, 2007, at 12:53:12
i wasn't feeling well when i answered that post and now when i read it, it sounds too harsh.
until your son gets off drugs, the hole can't be filled. when you talk to him/her/anyone, you're talking to the drugs and they are talking back to you.
is his drug of choice cocaine? and does he actually say that he wants to quit or is he still thinking he can "manage" it....cocaine isn't manageable. it rules a person's life.
i've been through it when my kids were teens and early 20s and it is so hard to not step in and do things for them. and i agree with you about bottoming out. hell, i'd bottom out the first time i didn't have money to buy myself a coca-cola. :-) but we're all wired differently. and that is the secret to finding what will stop the usage, the dependence upon masking the pain. that's behind drug usage.......masking a hurt and refusing to deal with feelings. it takes a good counselor to cut through to that.
i was in the grocery store one day and a man came up to me. a former patient. he said he had been sober for a year and it was due to me.(he worked very hard in treatment) that makes all of the other crap worth it. his eyes were shining, he was clean and had a job.......wooooooohoooooooooo. that's better than money.
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