Posted by Gee on January 19, 2007, at 21:14:44
In reply to Re: a friend that makes it impossible... some adiv » Gee, posted by Clockwork Ange on January 19, 2007, at 18:27:18
There's gotta be a lesson in there somewhere... maybe on how not to be like her?
I know it's tough setting up boundries, and I wish I could remember what my t said at the time. I didn't do it because of many other issues at the time, but we finally had a HUGE falling out and just now (like 8 months later) we're sotta back to being friends. Maybe it would be a good question to ask your t?
I think it was using I statements (well for sure) but saying things like "I feel bad when you talk about your problems, what is something good that happened to you today?" or "I want to be your friend, but I find it very hard when all you talk about is negative aspects of your life. I want to be a positive friend, so lets talk about positive things"
I know it sounds corny, but you get the general idea?
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