Posted by llrrrpp on September 15, 2006, at 10:28:37
In reply to Re: a very hard lesson but a good one » zenhussy, posted by ClearSkies on September 14, 2006, at 16:26:03
Rainbutterfly,
When I want to be deliberately hurtful, I try to write it down on a piece of paper. Then I can draw little evil smileys and do a lot of illustrations to try to figure out my feelings. I also like the pen and paper becuase I can make a little bubble diagram. each bubble has a thought, and maybe a reason for the thought, or feeling. and I try to connect the bubbles- try to figure out what happened first; what feeling is strongest, what feeling is more authentic; what feeling is masking the others. In my case it's often rage, or sadness. Then, once I've figured it out, or at least drawn a big gigantic tangle of disorganized emotions and memories, I can sit still again. Rejoin the civilized world. Last few times I did this, I read it the next day, after sleeping on it. It was different. Some of the connections seemed irrelevant. Some of the strongest emotions had evaporated.Colored pens are the best.
-ll
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