Posted by Dinah on August 15, 2006, at 9:10:46
In reply to Re: Not sure where this belongs, posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2006, at 19:52:30
It's good to know I'm not alone. And I know there are things I can do to make it better. I really will try. If only my brain didn't turn to sludge.
Maybe I'll ask my therapist if he'll role play with me today. He *should* be thrilled. But he often surprises me on what makes him happy.
Toph, Babblers were just friends I hadn't met in person yet. I felt more comfortable with them than I do with my IRL friends of thirty years who I've fallen out of regular contact with. Although even then I emailed my picture to as many as I could prior to the event, so they wouldn't have a look of shock and disgust on their face when they saw me.
I'm positive that it has something to do with self assessment. I joke that my self esteem is fine, and it really is. In many areas. But in social abilities and in personal appearance, it's very very low, and bolstered by years of feedback supporting that position. I think I realistically assess my lack of strength in those areas, and it leads to enormous social phobia in certain situations.
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