Posted by Deneb on August 9, 2006, at 0:14:37
In reply to Re: I got labelled as a troll...again :-( » Deneb, posted by Estella on August 8, 2006, at 22:30:54
> I agree with Gabbi. That is why... Though I have trouble with *some* of the civility determinations / blocks / lengths of blocks I keep posting here instead of other places. These boards *are* more supportive than other boards I've found out there that have minimal (or absent) moderation.
Yeah, I think Babble is the safest place for me right now. The good outweighs the bad for me. I hope you can feel safe here again Estella.
> People tend to get labelled as trolls when people think they are posting *just* to provoke a negative reaction from others.
My posts tend to frustrate people. People tend to think I'm not taking their advice and get angry with me for not succeeding. I posted about how I'm doing on my diet on this diet support group on usenet. I kept messing up my diet despite the advice people gave me. I think people there are frustrated because I don't have enough willpower to resist eating treats.
I don't have any problems on the health anxiety support forum. I find I like to help others there. People there really understand me and they understand my need to post my fears over and over again. I was accepted right away. I think it matters what type of forum it is.
> Typically it takes time for people to get to know you. If you just start posting about how upset you are feeling on a board where people don't know you and haven't seen you support other people... Then people are more likely to catch some of your upset and think you are doing it on purpose and label you as being a troll.I need to learn to assess the culture of a group before I join in. I tend to jump in head-first without knowing what I'm getting myself into. I need to learn to post less conspicuous things.
> It is probably just that they don't know you very well and they don't see you posting supportive messages to others the way we do.
You really think I post supportive messages? :-) Thanks Estella, you made my night. :-) This makes me want to post more supportive messages. :-)
> Perhaps you can internalise some of the stuff other people say to you (the helpful stuff) and start saying it to yourself when you get distressed. That is a way of helping yourself feel better rather than relying on others to help you feel better.
I was actually thinking about internalizing the good things. I thought about that after I wrote the last post. I know that I'm not a troll and that should be good enough.
Thanks Estella, you help me tremendously as always.
((((((((((((Estella)))))))))))))
Deneb*
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