Posted by TexasChic on July 11, 2006, at 21:30:58
In reply to Re: Why bother doing anything, I'll only fail *tri, posted by Phillipa on July 11, 2006, at 12:39:56
You can't afford to go to college! (I did)
Only somebody on drugs sleeps this much (depression).
You're so disrespectful! (because I wouldn't do what she wanted).
You could never afford to live on your own. (I am)
All you do is lay around and watch tv, I've never seen anybody so lazy (this is after taking care of HER mother for the previous 7 years).
There's a whole lot more, but I've blocked it out. It was her way to keep me dependent on her. You have to let go of thinking you have to obey her because she's your mother. You're an adult just like her. Recognize HER mental health issues and don't let yourself become insnared in her manipulative behavior. I know, easier said than done, but if I can do it so can you. Don't wait until you're in your 30's to start living like I did. There is nothing I regret more than those lost years.
Read up on co-dependency and boundries. Your mother isn't allowing any boundries between the two of you, and they are absolutely necessary for you to be happy and healthy. Right now your SHE has control of your life. YOU have to decide to take control. I know you can do it. Whatever happens, you'll figure it out just like everyone else (I remind myself of that everyday).
You are smart, warm hearted, funny, interesting, and have so much to offer the world. YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY!!!!
-T
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