Posted by LegWarmers on April 4, 2006, at 19:55:39
In reply to Re: I wonder why Dr. Bob won't accept my scarf » LegWarmers, posted by Deneb on April 4, 2006, at 19:34:59
> > healthy boundaries
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> Boundaries! I don't know why I didn't think of boundaries! LOL I completely forgot about boundaries.yeah, those darn things are kind of important ; )
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> I think I get it now. Dr. Bob can't accept my gift because he doesn't want to be my friend? That sounds a little horrible.Thats one way to look at it. He needs to keep a certain level of distance from posters. you know? It isn't horrible at all, I personally would find it odd if he accepted gifts.
>Maybe Dr. Bob wants to be my friend but he can't because he has to be objective as an administrator?
You could look at it that way too. But you have to remember that there are how many posters on this board? you know? We are like a ball point pen to him... this is my interpretation anyway. I have so many of those little blue pens all over the place and if I gave them all a name in addition to remembering all my in real life stuff I would never remember which pen was which. sorry, that was a really dumb example but thats what came to me. So I wouldn't take it personally that he doesn't want the gift. It is about rules, and I persona;;y like rules, because without them the world would become havoc. but back to the scarf, we are not Bob's friends, we are posters he administates. And maybe he thinks of us more as pens with a name rather then just ball point pens, I don't know. But this is my take on it.
>Maybe Dr. Bob doesn't want to encourage my love obsession for him by sending me mixed messages and confusing me?
Very likely. And also, we don't know how many people have secret love obsessions with him, do we? So for all we know he gets love letters all day. How would he keep up lol
>That means Dr. Bob doesn't like me loving him. :-( But then he said that he appreciates the love...so what does it mean?
Im sure he has no problems being loved, we all like to be loved. And I think its clear that your love is innocent. When he said he appreciates the love you put into it, I take that as, he is acknowleding that you have put a lot of your time and thought and love into it and he wants you to know he understands that. But at the same time he feels that he can't accept the scarf, and I would guess that it has NOTHING to do with the love you put into it. I think he wanted you to know, I hear that you worked hard on this for me, but...
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> I'm getting confused. LegWarmers, you seem to have a good grasp of why Dr. Bob can't accept my scarf....can you explain it to me more?How did I do? he may have completely differnet reasons and if I am straying maybe he can come in and tell me to be quiet.
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> Would Dr. Bob have accepted my gift if I didn't love him?I don't think so. His decision to accept it, I think, was separate completly from the love. Other than, It probably made it harder for him to say, I can't accept it.
>Would Dr. Bob accept my money?
Its not likely he would accept it as a pesonal gift, but I would : D j/k
and he doesn't seem that interested in bribes either ; )
j/k again!!>He would probably accept money right? I think he has accepted donations from posters.
*Donations* for the site is the key word.. just to assist in the upkeep of the boards.
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