Posted by alexandra_k on March 27, 2005, at 16:40:23
In reply to Re: ???????? » alexandra_k, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on March 27, 2005, at 15:03:15
> I think after several attempts at explaining and still being questioned, it feels more to me like an attempt to change my feelings rather than simply an alternate viewpoint being offered for me to ponder.
Yeah. I just had breakfast (and my morning coffee). You know you are addicted to Babble when you check Babble before having your first coffee! (I did get a cigarette or two in, though). I was thinking about this during breakfast. Was just on my way back here to apologise. I have a lot to learn about delivery... I am sorry Gabbi.
I wasn't trying to change anybodies feelings. It has more to do with the intensity of them.
> I don't think you need to be sorry, I'm just saying how it comes across to me.I know I don't need to be :-) But you are feeling frustrated and unheard etc and I am sorry for that.
> No, not at all, that would be impossible anyway.Yeah.
> I'm saying that in this case, for example, the angry reactions might make him see something he didn't before, and give him an increased understanding of how people are likely to feel in another situation.
This situation strikes me as being very very similar to the vsg situation. And what I am doing is saying the same thing in both cases. I tried to find it from the archives - but no luck.
But that being said nobody seemed to get me then and I haven't figured out a better way to say it. So there it is.
IMO it is the same thing once more.
I never was trying to change anyones mind / feelings. Just to point out that there are different factors that you can choose to reflect on. Which ones you choose to focus on have a lot to do with the intensity of upset.
But, like I said, I don't think I can say it any better and I think peoples got offended with me last time, so there it is.
IMO Dr Bob knows people will get very very upset every now and then. I don't see a 'lesson' for him in all this - except that he could have avoided that by NOT starting Babble up, by NOT suggesting a meet up, by NOT suggesting vsg's.
I don't see him changing.
That is what the world is like. Sometimes we can't do things that we would like to do.
At least at Babble (I believe anyways) there isn't any malicious or exclusionary intent. That isn't always the case in the real world.It is easy for me to say (in this case) because I don't think I'd go - even if I could. I would lose a lot of the things that I like about Babble. That nobody responds to be on the basis of what I look like etc etc.
But maybe I just feel that way about it because I couldn't go anyway.
I don't know.
It wouldn't be so easy for me if I did really want to go.
I am sorry Gabbi.
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