Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on March 25, 2005, at 17:43:52
In reply to Re: ???????? » Gabbi-x-2, posted by alexandra_k on March 25, 2005, at 15:48:35
> > An invitation for a 500.00 a plate dinner could be extended to everyone in the poorest neighborhood in town, as well as the richest but it hardly makes things equal.
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> Equal with respect to attendance, no probably not.No, but it's not something unexpected is what I'm saying. You could count on the fact that people who were from the poorer neighborhood couldn't go. If I had rich friends and poor ones, and sent out an invitation to an expensive restaurant to celebrate, I would *know* that I was all but excluding the the poorer ones, and not be surprised if they were hurt, or angry.
> Equal with respect to the invites, yes it does.
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> I don't know.
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> Do you think the $500 dinner thing would be glad if someone poor managed to scrape the funds together and get there? Or do you think in that case the $500 thing is designed so that only a 'certain kind of person' can attend???In this case I truly don't think Dr Bob planned things so that only a few could go. I don't think it was anything more than a nice idea on his part. However, just as I said before, I can understand why people would be hurt nevertheless. Hurt is hurt--it just *is*
It can't always be rationalized, especially when people are already feeling downtrodden.It doesn't mean it was a plot, but the fact that many of us cannot afford to go, and feel a bit left out certainly can't be a surprise. I'm not taking it personally at all though, (unlike the party analogy I used for myself, which is more personal)
I think the posters who are going would be thrilled if everyone could attend, and I think they deserve to.
> IMO that is the difference.
> Quite a significant one...
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That's how *you* feel though, I don't think peoples feelings should have to be up for debate.
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