Posted by Dinah on December 4, 2004, at 10:11:42
In reply to Am I foolin' myself by being here?, posted by 64bowtie on December 4, 2004, at 1:11:00
Rod, I know we got off to a bad start, but I've come to appreciate you as a person. And I've learned to read your posts through the filter of knowing you. I'd hate to see you go.
Maybe a teensy tiny experiment? I sometimes feel like we're getting Rod the coach, not Rod the person. As opposed to gg, say, who sometimes gives us the benefit of the *experience* of being on the other side of the couch, but who never gets on the other side of the couch with *us*. In other words, if we're wondering what a therapist might be thinking or why they might do something, and she has some insight, she might graciously share that with us. And we really really appreciate that. But she *never* tries to be a shrink with us. It's a wonderful ability she has to separate the two.
Maybe you could ask for some pointers from her for that. Because I think the only time you run into problems is when you bring coaching Rod to the board without asking if the poster would like to be coached. I'm sure you don't mean to do it, you're just excited about what has worked for you and for others and you want to share.
But if you have any familiarity with the newly converted, you might recognize that that rarely works, and in fact often backfires. :)
So my proposed experiment is that you leave coach Rod behind for a month, and come here as person Rod. Even if you think people need some attitude adjustment, refrain from giving it unless you first ask and get an ok. Or maybe for the first week or two don't even ask.
Let us get to know you responding to us and initiating conversations with the purely social Rod, who I'm sure everyone will accept and enjoy.
Then in a month, you can see what results the experiment yielded and go from there.
I KNOW you have plenty to offer us besides your coaching skills. Share those things with us?
Just MHO. Ok, I lie. My opinion is only rarely humble. :D
poster:Dinah
thread:424236
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