Posted by JenStar on September 21, 2004, at 1:15:48
In reply to PTSD. Do I have it?, posted by CatFanatic on September 19, 2004, at 15:45:26
hi catfanatic,
first of all, I'm so sorry to hear that you've been the target of racism! So sorry to hear that. It's nice to find a place like babble where skin really DOESN'T matter.I've had the exact same thing you describe - obsessing over a (supposedly) small thing that happened eons ago. For me, the things I can't forget are things that remind me of my own weaknesses. I think the tendency to hold onto these and play them in the mind like a broken recored is a tendency of OCD. NOt the OCD where you wash hands over and over again, but the kind where obsessessive thoughts set up in the braind and can't leave.
Lexapro helped me alleviate some of those obsessive thoughts. I don't know if a med would work for you. Have you tried anything?
I've read Dale Carnegie and what struck me most about him was that he seemed to genuinely, truly LIKE people. I believe his point is that when you find something to like about a person, then you can be humble and step back until the person doesn't feel threatened...and then you can work from there. But I think it takes a special personality type to be successful at emulating DC -- to truly feel respect and communion with others, even if they are being jerks -- if people suspect phoniness, the gig is up! :)
Have you talked to a doc about these feelings you have?
take care,
JenStar
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