Posted by octopusprime on May 3, 2004, at 20:56:42
In reply to What do friends do?, posted by fallsfall on May 3, 2004, at 15:14:50
but i have decided that i'm too grown up for that and i'm hiring movers. :-/
i dunno what to say ff, i feel like i have lots of acquaintances and very few true friends.
i do the activity stuff with the acquaintances - watch the hockey game, have a bbq, go hiking, go skiing, go to the beach, drum, have a painting party, go to political meetings, learn to square dance, eat lunch, go to a concert, go to movies, etc. by and large these are people i met at work, at school, at an adult class, or in the political meetings. but a lot of these people don't really know a lot about me or my life. they wouldn't know if i was looking for a new job or if somebody close to me died.
there's only one guy that transcends the acquaintance boundary to friend. :-/ he did help me move, though. we had boundary issues but those have been resolved. mostly it's a space thing - i see him every two weeks or so now so we don't wind up bludgeoning each other with our issues and we have space to breathe. we just talk about stuff - not usually anything heavy, but sometimes. not a soul spilling kind of heavy, anyway. he knows of my mental health issues but doesn't analyze them with me.
and i have friends that were once real life friends, but are now far away internet chat buddies. they get all the good dirt but none of the fun activity stuff. weird.
i don't know if this helps or not.
poster:octopusprime
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