Posted by Waterlily on January 18, 2004, at 21:08:39
In reply to transference, posted by NewMom on January 13, 2004, at 15:16:53
My most recent crush (don't know if I want to call it that) was on my eye doctor. This was a toughie for me. He was sooo attentive before my laser vision correction. He called me twice at home on the day of surgery (afterward) and he also called me later that week even though I had just seen him for a 3 day check. I was smitten! A doctor payed that much attention to me. Wow. I was disappointed when my left eye healed up all the way. I wanted some kind of complication that would bring me back. Not a really bad complication, mind you, just a simple one. Guess what? I got it - the complication part, but not the simple part. It's fuzzy 20/25 vision in the right eye and he kept telling me that everything was fine, that I was being too picky. Grrr... I was soooo angry with him. This was bothering me and he didn't even bother to try to diagnose it. For months I complained about it and asked him all kinds of technical questions. I finally got second opinions and brought him the results (diagnosis: visual aberration causing reduced vision quality, mixed astigmatism). Then he tells me I'm his most educated patient and that I was right all along. He says that he's committed to getting me to where I want to be visually. I *get* to have another surgery, but first the technology has to advance further because there is currently NO FIX. At least I don't have a crush anymore. That's fixed.
Enough with my boring, drawn out story. What I want to say here is that there's a darned good reason to have crushes on doctors. First off, it's a nurturing, obligation-less relationship. He takes care of you and all you have to do is pay him (but you don't pay attention to the money part). You can live in fantasy land, thinking that he has no flaws. Secondly, he's probably rich. Face it, he's a doctor and he's got money. Who wouldn't like that? Also, he's intelligent. I know I get a kick out of talking on the same level as someone who has more formal education than me. Makes me feel like I'm really smart. Finally, he fixed you. You had a problem and he fixed it. (Mine actually created one, but I won't go there again.) It's perfectly understandable that you'd develop feelings for him. Keep them, but don't act on them.
Good luck and kiss your baby!
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