Posted by All Done on January 14, 2004, at 0:40:32
In reply to Re: Erotic transference, posted by NewMom on January 13, 2004, at 17:53:04
> > It's probably going to make me look weird by asking but... what is erotic transference?
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> > > Can erotic transference apply to other doctors
> > besides therpists? Like an GP or OB/GYN?
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> From what I read, it's when a person has feelings of love towards their theripsts. One reason that is cited is because the patient is looking for love from his/her mother that they didn't get.
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> For me that's not it. I have a huge crush on my doctor. I mean, I fantasize about this guy. He's recently single, my age, incredibly attractive, (the bluest eyes I've ever seen!) has a gentle mannerism, and is very easy-going. I'm happily married (most of the time!) with a new baby, but I can't help feeling like I'd rather be with my doctor. My last appointment with him (for the next year) was last week. In fact, we want to have another baby and I think I want to get pregnant again right away just so I can begin to regularly see him again.
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> I know I just have to get over it, as it will never happen. I'm trapped in my house right now, as I can't take the baby out because of the raging flu epidemic here. Maybe when I return to work and have something else to think about, the feelings will fade. I hope so.
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>NewMom,
Congratulations on your new baby! When I had my son, I experienced the same thing as you. My feelings did fade (especially after I wasn't seeing him so regularly anymore), but I must admit, I develop crushes on just about any male caregiver or authority figure. After reading the relatively small amount I have on transference, I've decided it must be that. : ) Was there some other "need" besides love that you may have been missing from your parents?
One thing I can assure you is that if you're going back to work (as I did), you're probably not going to have much time for fantasizing about much more than maybe sleep and perhaps an occasional bubble bath. ; )
Good luck with your little one!
All Done
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