Posted by Dog on December 15, 2003, at 16:53:41
In reply to Re: really long post!, posted by DeeJay on December 15, 2003, at 16:17:32
Deej,
i'd give Wellbutrin a try for at least a month or even more, unless you're experiencing some bad side effects...maybe just plain old Prozac would do... how are your periods? any PMS?i have fantasies though i am married... i can't help it sometimes... if it is wrong, i make sure and ask God for forgiveness... the thing is: i never act on my fantasies...i am committed to God and to my wife... i will not cheat on her...
i never tell her i fantasize though because i do not want to hurt her...i love her very much and she is very insecure...anyway, with a woman like her, any one i could find to cheat with would not compare to her... she is very lovely and very attractive...
oftentimes, i find myself fantasizing about her...she is a very beautiful woman...
if your man is a human being, i am sure he harbors fantasies, but you can't really ask him about it, in that don't be accusatory or judgemental, because in intimate relationships, both can be having fantasies, and one can ask the other about it, but still some jealousy and insecurity can result and just mess things up...sometimes its best to just leave it alone...men esp. have a large problem with it, i think more than women, because men are stimulated by sight more than most women... women, it takes some touch, tactile stimulation, like holding hands or just touching innocently somehow...as far as your fantasies? i don't know how much are you doing it and to what extent... do you constantly fantasize about this other guy or other guys? do you find yourself wishing you were with someone else when you're with beau? you have to be honest and forthright about it...but it might be something to talk to your counselor or another older woman you trust and admire...
i sense you have a high dramatic side to your personality and fantasies come to you very naturally, i bet...this makes you very interesting and exciting and fun to be with, but remember to not take yourself too seriously ...(do i sound like a fortune cookie?)
Dog
> I know, you are so right. When I talk to sailor man, he knows my current situation. He doesn't think I'm doing anything wrong because all we do is chat. Not like we used to. I truly believe I like it because it's something out of my reach. I know it, in fact. Because, I can guarantee, even if he did live here, and we were together all the time, I'd still feel like I do now.
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> I forgot to answer the med question. I've only been on Wellby about 2 weeks now. I go back to the doc on Friday, and I'm not sure I want to take the pill anymore...but I know I need something. I just don't know what it is. I tend to get that panicky feeling waaayy too much, especially when I'm in large crowds. I went to get the script refilled, but not sure if I'm going to pick it up. I just don't know yet.
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> I know what you mean about the harboring fantasies, and maybe I'm in love with that kind of stuff....out of reach challenges that just will NEVER happen, because they aren't real. I just wish these thoughts would go away. All we do is chat....and not very often. He's really busy and I am too, but he's always online, and I am too. Which, does not mean I talk to him all the time. I just feel bad sometimes because both my dad and my oldest brother cheated on their wives, as well as my ex did to me, and I can't stand that people do that to other people....but I don't think me talking to him is cheating. Now, when I think of him in ways that I don't think of my beau now.....that I feel like is cheating. But is it?.....ARghhhhh I don't know. As an outsider.....what do you think?...How do I know that my man doesn't harbor secret thoughts?.....You just never ever know.
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> That's the fastest typing I've ever done in my life......whew! what a workout!
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> Deej
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