Posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 12, 2003, at 20:46:09
In reply to how to phrase a slow-down request?, posted by Medusa on December 12, 2003, at 14:09:46
I seem to have this problem quite a bit. I am so enchanted with meeting new people. The newness of the relationship is so fun for me. And then gradually, as I get to know the person, I become disenchanted and usually want to sever all ties. Just cold turkey. It seems perfectly logical to me. This always leaves some though people pretty hurt and having no clue as to what they did. I am very distressed by this personality trait but have no idea how to work on it.
Since I am the queen of non-confrontation, my tactic is pure avoidance. I am not particularly advising this, but I would say about 3/4 of the people eventually get a clue that since I am not returning phone calls or emails, that I must not want to be bothered.
However, if you genuinely like this woman and want to pursue a friendship, that is wonderful. If you feel somewhat harassed by her, you can always say that your life is pretty chaotic right now and you'll get in touch with her when things slow down. If you don't feel harrassed by her,I don't think you have to do too much. She will eventually get the picture that she needs to ease off a little. At least I hope that would be the case.
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