you are so cool

Posted by Jai Narayan on December 12, 2003, at 17:57:47

In reply to Re: therapy » Jai Narayan, posted by tabitha on December 12, 2003, at 17:20:17

> Jai, you are new to Babble and new to forums, right? Like anyplace new there can be a honeymoon phase where it all seems wonderful and perfect, then something happens and you get disillusioned. I have gone through that here, and with new jobs, new relationships, lots of places. It's difficult to adjust your expectations from your rose-colored view down towards reality.
>
<hit that right on the nose
> I found for myself that the only way to get over my pattern of idealizing and chasing people was to stop giving in to the impulse to chase them. I treated it sort of like an addiction or compulsion. Whenever I was acting from that desperate need to pursue the 'object', I had to stop myself. I needed a lot of support from my therapist to do this.
<well if you have any helpful hints...I have fallen into the same rut.
Thanks
Jai Narayan

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