Posted by Jai Narayan on December 12, 2003, at 9:33:39
In reply to Re: therapy, posted by tabitha on December 11, 2003, at 19:33:01
> > One of my rules in my life is "do no harm". So I was really upset that infact I had broken that rule...
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> Jai, it is great that you are concerned with the feelings of others, but I would modify that rule a little. How about 'do no intentional harm'? Other people have their own issues and you can trigger them without knowing or meaning to.
<<good point.
> With a rule like that you might be unnecessarily hard on yourself when you do unintentionally bring up pain for someone else.
<what's mine and what's someone else's pain, it's hard sometime to pull the two apart....
Inside the "do no harm" includes myself.
I want to thank you for your kind and supportive words...it is helping me to move through this painful situation. I'm trying not to feel a kind of deadness inside....part of me has a negative feeling for this site now. Part of me never wants to come back here again. I was not protected from pain but neither was anyone else. I was too open and excited about every post I got from Larry Hoover and sent post I sent to him. Now I just feel shutdown and numb.
A while ago someone sent me a warning....to not be so naive. I was rather wide eyed and impressed with the tenents of this site. I am still impressed with the intention but honestly sometimes pain can't be avoided.
I can't step away and say: I was just a fool...or they were just meanies...
It was a huge ball a wax...full of lot's of stuff to learn from...I hope to grow from it and keep my eyes open. I just have to get through all the pain.
I am so lost now about Larry Hoover...I feel clueless about who he is. I was so sure I knew who he was. I guess it's just the flip side of riding on that sureness. I am now afraid to post anything directly to him or to ask him questions. I hope I get over that because he is such a wealth of information and support. Maybe he never wants to hear from me again?thanks for your support.
Jai Narayan
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