Posted by Susan J on October 27, 2003, at 12:36:12
In reply to Re: Welcome to the Club. :-), posted by john1022 on October 27, 2003, at 12:24:11
Hi again, John
>>Everything had been so perfect for us throughout our lives and we had such a loving, very fun family, very normal until now.
<<That's wonderful! There is no greater, stronger foundation than that! Trust me, no matter how great life is...it can and will throw you some curves...and having a close-knit family is a great resource to have when the going gets tough like this....And you are *still* normal. :-)
>>I feel this is hurting both my mom and my dad and I can tell they are struggling. I don't like them to feel this way, it hurts me even more. This is so hard and I don't know what to do about it. Thanks for your support
<<Yes, they are probably struggling with it, and it's great that you are so sensitive to their feelings, too. But I really think that if there is ever a time to be selfish, it's now. Do everything you can to help yourself feel better...so much of it you have to do yourself, and though your family can be supportive, it's really something they can't intrinsically help you with.It almost sounds like you feel a bit guilty about being depressed and bringing stress on the family. Don't be. It's not your guilt to own. You are suffering through a great battle, as far as I'm concerned, and you *will* make it.
After all, if your mom or dad were the ones really depressed, wouldn't you be there for them, like they are being there for you? Family is supposed to pull together and help one another when it gets rough. You'd do it for them. Let them do it for you.
It's OK to be needy sometimes. Just don't make a lifestyle choice out of it. :-) Once you kick the depression, and you will, you'll be able to get back up on your feet again and contribute to the family, to society, and most importantly, to yourself again....
:=)
Good luck!
Susan
poster:Susan J
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