Posted by Susan J on September 18, 2003, at 8:53:37
In reply to Re: The Ex Another Woman/ Susan, posted by kara lynne on September 17, 2003, at 17:29:39
> Susan! More! Please! Can you come stay with me and just keep saying those things over and over again? Ok, perhaps I'm a little needy, but I'm working on that.
<<I think it's *OK* to be a little needy. :-) We are social creatures, you know. Pack animals....
>>> I mean it pisses me off only in that I do feel like maybe I left right before the 'miracle', you know?
<<Story of *my* life. I work so hard with my man, that by the time we've broken up, he's perfect for the next woman who comes along...(not really, but it seems that way).
>> he even used those words, that he learned on me.
<<Mine just tell me they've "matured." :-)> How are you doing? Didn't you just get into something with your ex or did I remember something innacurately--I will go back and try to find your posts, I'm interested to know.
<<I'm actually kind of happy today. Kinda weird, kinda scary. I had huge emotional crap (can I say that?) with a guy who led me on but would never date me....that's over. Last serious boyfriend was a couple years ago.
> By the way, I'm sure you're gorgeous yourself even though I so competely understand the self-image conflict. It's a killer.
<<Thanks for the thought. I'd be attractive, I think, if I could lose about 30 pounds...Gorgeous will never happen. :-) But yes, my self-image seems to suck now worse than ever...
> No, I can't imagine that he's going to be any less self centered or workaholic, or able to connect in any meaningful way. But that sweet honeymoon period-- those blissful three months. But that quirky, charming inability to express himself quickly turns into a pathological incapability of comitting, or expressing love. And that killed me too.
<<See! He's *not* a prize.....You sound a bit like me. I don't fall often for a guy, but when I do, I fall hard and fast.....for the illusion I now know....and spend the rest of the relationship trying to get back to where I thought it was.....
> Thank you so much for your post. I am going to print this one out and wear it on my head.
<<You're welcome. :-) And another poster said it much better than I can.....how lovely you look with paper on your head. :-)
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