Posted by kara lynne on July 25, 2003, at 13:38:04
In reply to Re: Same boat, sans anchor » kara lynne, posted by Tabitha on July 25, 2003, at 12:40:40
I asked my ex the other day: what if we went to this magical 3rd party and he said, "In this area you have 70% responsibility, and Kara has 30%. " He said he would accept that if it was said by a 3rd party. It is dangerous for me to talk to him too much; after awhile I start to muddle what happened. At first it was pretty clear that he should be doing all he can to apologize to me, rather than divvy out blame.
Seems pretty troublesome to me. He's wanting to take what happened and make sure its my fault before he will accept any responsiblity. Something's wrong.
But those other approaches can get a little mind-f**ky; your guy did a 4th step or two and got stuck there-- but you wonder if there's meaning behind it or just a lot of I-babble. Was your group the Forum? I don't know anything about it, but I thought I might have remembered you mentioning it.
May we both get out there--God speed.
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