Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2003, at 17:57:35
In reply to Dinah... » Dinah, posted by yesac on June 22, 2003, at 13:20:59
Hi. I'm sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable. You were pretty open about changing your name, and Brio is right. You might want to change it a bit more if you're worried about others knowing it's you. My posting name has nothing at all to do with my real name, so I don't think anyone could identify me that way. Although anyone who knew me could identify me from the other things I say.
I've got this constitutional problem with ambiguity. It kind of literally makes me nuts. My Rorschach says that I spend inordinate effort trying to fit parts together to make a coherent whole, and that when my efforts fail, I get exhausted and start sort of mentally flailing away. It almost made me believe in that test, which I never really did before. And the level of ambiguity lately has been relatively high on the board. So I just get frustrated. But I'm not angry with you. And the example I gave is not about you either.
I've posted to you pretty freely since you changed your name, haven't I? So you see, I'm really not upset with you.
And I'm sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable.
Apologetically,
Dinah
(And yes, I'm sure that not one person who changed their name did it with evil motivations. But that doesn't make it less disconcerting to try to post to someone you have a relationship with, or think you may have a relationship with, as if it was a stranger. It's not quite as bad as posting with two names at once, which Dr. Bob requests that we don't do. But there is some of the same flavor. That's why I particularly appreciate the graceful and thoughtful way that Slinky and Gracie changed their names. But certainly there is a long history on this board of people starting afresh with new names, and not only not telling of the change, but vehemently denying any guesses as to who they once were. It isn't against the rules or anything. In small doses it even makes an interesting puzzle or guessing game. It just isn't a small dose right now. It's a mind boggling dizzying dose. But that's not your fault. It must be the phases of the moon or something. And the fact that I have trouble dealing with it isn't your fault either. That's my stuff and I own that it's my stuff.)
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